Beauty and beauty.

I've practically had to change my sleeping pattern for Thea. Change meals. Change Tv channels. Change what deodorant I put on to something milder, change clothing (sliced all my clothes at the breast area) and generally make the queen safe and comfortable. She's quiet but mighty. One cry sends everyone on their toes. Her smile [...]

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The bulk of your ideologies?

I lost a friend yesterday. We went down the pro-life, pro-choice and gender-based issues in relations to a woman's body debate and the argument was intense and unnecessary. He told me that the only time a woman would be justified to get rid of a pregnancy was if she was raped. He, in fact, stated [...]

Why aren’t feminists talking about prenatal depression?

Pregnancy is so beautiful on social media. In real life, 3 out of 5 women are afraid to admit the 1st 4 months sucked and I hear the last 2 suck more. Since I shared the news with my family and friends plus my audience that I am having a baby - I have cut [...]

Perhaps women empowerment is a privilege?

In the next 2 weeks - I will be writing about women in Western Kenya and their struggles daily among themselves and in the community. Most of these stories are heart breaking. Every woman will be given a pseudo name. We need tangible solution to such issues in our society.

We are teaching our daughters to say no, but what are we teaching our sons?

A friend sent me an audio today at 7 A.M. An audio that stated that a wise mother once told her daughter that it takes one male goat to inseminate 6 females. In the audio, the woman from Coastal Kenya was advising young women that men will always cheat and it is up to a woman [...]

Feminism prepared me for everything except my life

I am resting in bed. It has been a long day. I am letting the drugs take course. I am not talking about illegal drugs here in case your mind automatically shifted to those. I was diagnosed with malaria and bacterial infection the other day.  You have no idea how much my head was throbbing. [...]

The blind eye bleeds the heart.

18th May: Children Sexual Exploitation Awareness Day. I wrote about a young girl's grandmother last year. She was heading to Milimani Courts as a final witness to a three-year-old dragged rape case of her granddaughter. She was their last hope after her granddaughter went mute voluntarily after various sessions of her- being asked to describe [...]

4 men worthy of marriage.

I was expected to do an International Women's Day post- as most women that advocate for gender equity, equality, diversity and inclusion did. I was expected to talk about gender diversity and inclusion while pointing out how different feminism labels and ideologies are bringing about division among women; afterall, I had brought that topic up [...]

Negative reciprocity.

Most abusers often accuse their victims of emotional abuse and their victims tend to believe it. Women more often than men fall victim to this fiasco which is possibly a product of negative reciprocity which leads to an abuse ripple effect. Negative reciprocity is common in most abusive relationships. Most people that are being abused [...]

Feminism is of no use to African women – unless they need to be less of African women.

Feminism is not relevant to African women. The misery we feel as African women in our noisy efforts to be treated with respect and ask for equality and equity is simply because we got educated by the white man. Why would an African woman want to marry someone she loves rather than someone her family [...]

In rank and ideologies.

I recently wrote an article, on my life not only as a feminist but a young black feminist and the reception was great. What I didn't write was what I am learning by being myself and how I am taking that in.

When the sun sets in the East.

According of FBI; the penetration, no matter how slight, of the genitalia with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim is rape. If the word "rape" mysteriously disappeared from the English language, we would have absolutely no problem expressing the concepts [...]